You ever find yourself feeling like an outsider, like there is no one to relate to? And if so, have you ever been considering that it might be one of the strenghts of yours?

The kind of feeling of being like outsider is basically showing you directly that you are here for a reason, for making a difference. You have your own path to follow up to, and for me, I think that is the beauty of it – there is no one like you. No one is builded the way you are, no one is thinking the same way. Many may be mind-like, but still, you are having your unique aspect on things. Theres nothing wrong on making different choices from the rest and you can be the lonely wolf, or the one who feels at it best more around friends. We all are having different needs, and as I have been getting older, I have been also understanding more this aspect. 

As I were younger I felt most of the time that I’m more like the  outsider, everyones friend and part of the teams, but also more like the lonely wolf who switched  from a group to group as I were having many friends, but not having just one tight circle of people to hang out with. That never were the deal for me. 

At first taking the steps and presenting so called real colors of yours might be scary, even painful on mentally as you also see how the people around you are reflecting on the change, some might me pursting from joy for you and cheering for you to keep on blooming, but in other hand, you also start to spot the ones who are scared of the change and not agreeing on your new path. More or less it feels frustrating as you are doing better than ever but the people around you are not coping with it, more like trying to hush you down. And the more you hush down your own truth, the real you, the more anxiety you are having.

Trying to fit in on your surroundings can cause more or less anxiety if you dont naturally go with the same flow that everyone else is seemingly going. Everyone seems to have their sh*t together, but most of the time theres is more or less copycat momentums going on, as the ones that truly do as they like and presents theirself truthfully are the ones that are focused on their own path and not caring of what others are doing. The focus is and stays on their own line.

I feel like the anxiety is pressure caused by society,  as the result of what happens when your mind is trying to filter, understand and adapt everything all together with your inner world. As some of us are more sensitive for the changes and all the little details around us than others, and to more sensitive you are, the more easily you might adapt the reflections of your atmosphere and the anxiety from it that you might feel. The more you try to adapt the things that are against your own nature, the more you might also welcome that unwelcome feeling of unnecessary pressure into your life. And the more unfamiliar  you are of all the aspects of yourself, the more you feel distracted. 

For long I was trying to go with growd but ending up more and more feeling lost, and just watching and wondering how the hell can everything go smoothly for others as I were at the same time having the feeling that I’m just facing wall after wall, even tho I was just trying to follow the growd, do the same as others! Especially when listening more others than my own intuition, I were facing more obstacles and also I found myself feeling more off the road. That also stopped me, why I’m even trying to go ”with the flow” as it clearly aint for me. And what really is the so called flow ?

Imagine how it would be if we all would be mind liked, thinking always the same way, doing, speaking and thinking  the same way. It would be a bit scary, right? In away not that bad but also at the same time, nothing really would go as smoothly. More like just staying the same and playing the same old record again again and again.

We meet different people but most likely not all of those connections won’t be alike and in a line with us, as we might be more  about finding mind like people but lie should also be learning from the differences of others. Respectfully and mindfully. The very thing that you might not be understanding about others might even be the thing you should be paying attention onto. Why I’m not accepting or understanding this, what can I learn from this ? It doesn’t mean that you have to agree on everything, but trying to do so helps a lot. And as it can make things harder to have a different kind of perspective, it can also make things more productive as you can be learning from the differences. But that demands understanding the different point of views – from both sides. 

With different thought processes and ways to act, we are able to keep the things going on, even changing them if needed.   The change is inside and around us, it is in the way we speak, act and behave.  We can always choose different path that we are expected to go with. 

It also can feel like its a bit struggle time to time to connect your own thoughts and way of the thinking between with the surroundings and yourself, as we need to be bulling the same strings at the same time while maintaining our own identity. Some are more better on mastering that than others, but practice makes progress. 

I personally like the sentence ”go with the flow” but I would be more precise on that, and more like go with your own flow. Your own flow is the one that you  are aiming naturally  for, and it lets  you to be yourself, do things that are naturally you – authentically and truthfully. Personally I feel like we meet people to learn something about ourselves and others, or making the change of some kind. You know, like a butterfly effect on a way or another.

When feeling like outsider and not get understanded by surroundings also might tell you that you are surrounded by people that are not sharing the same values. And if you are okey and happy with, no need to make the changes, but if you feel unhappy about it is a sign to go and find more mind like people, your people. After all, life is about being happy and being supported on your life path, no matter where you are heading. Our different ways of thinking will make us richer in many ways as long it comes from respect and honesty.