Be stubborn about your goals but flexible about your methods.

Things may not always go straight away as you planned, the will come plot twists on the way. That’s life.

And, to be honest, most of the times, when all the plot twist are not making any god damn sence, all i can do is just trying to keep my nerves together and really try trust on that, that everything, in a way, happens for reason. Even the events that make no absolutely sence at all to my logic, will make it in the end.

It can be about your aparment, your future plans, changing the jobs, anything. Things go rarely as being smooth sailing all the way. Even the ones that seem to have it all, do struggle. But does the struggle determite your path, or are you gonna master it ?

I personally believe that all the setbacks on the way really test you how consist you are on the things you are aiming towards to, are you really taking your goal seriously. While you front obstacles, you are gaining important lessons, and the knowledge from those will come handy later on in your life. But only if you have being taking notice on what really are the things that you struggle with. The little details, the teeny tiny stones in your shoes, that make your walking uncomfortable. You know how to remove them, but you also have to be aware that the root of the problem really is the stones. Because if you do remove them, and few minutes later you are facing the same problem, the actual problem is not the stones in your shoe, the actual problem might be the fact that either your shoes are broken or you are taking a walk on pile of sand. Either way, the result or the problem has been te same and the bottom line solution is based on the final outcome of the real problem, not just the side effects.

I have been also in situations that are like being on the sinking ship/boat, me finding myself trying to bail out the water from the deck with the bucket, not realising at first that the real problem has not been the rising waterline, but the actual hole on the frame. The feeling on that situation is like just nonstop going on the same cycle, and not really knowing how to find your way out of that situation. All you know, that it cant be continuing to be like that.

When starting to realize that the current way to do things is not working as admired, at least now I know that this was not the way how to deal with things. First lesson, check. Then the reality check, what are the things that really keep on the atmosphere of things not going as planned, what are the obstacles I keep hitting my toes to. You can have as good plans as you can, but if you have plenty of clutter laying around yourself, for sure you will struggle on the way. Or at least it will take more time while trying not to hitting on yourself to things on your way.

I will not say that getting rid off all the things at ones would be easy, as i am still also trying teach myself out of the habits that i have been having maybe years, but i can tell that its possible.

At the moment I feel like Im having the real cocoon-stage, decluttering my life for good. Starting from the fresh, again. But its much needed, as the way of life I was having, was in the end taking more than giving. Ups but also downs, but still feeling more like being stuck, not moving forward in general. Or so it has been seeming to be, but as I am now taking a good look back to previous months, I have been doing the decluttering during this time period also, but on different way than now. Sometimes the process starts first on the unconsciuos side, then the conscious side follows. Evolving is a constant thing, never stopping. Thats why I feel also that is so important to time to time stop, and take a look how far have you come. And not just as in life, but also as a human being.

And most of the times on my life, in between the changes, there are the so called taking a breath- stages. In a way i do feel that its finally easy to breath, im having more oxyden around me, but still i know that this is just a transition point. Now its the time and place to put the things on line with the ease of mind, and slowly start to but more gas on the enging, not straight away full speed, but definately not the time to stop or slow down either. For me, this kind of situations really reflect on what works on my favor, and what i really do need and want into my life.

I like personally the phrase ”you have to go far to be able to see close”, and i have also been on the situations to be witnessing that to be true. Moving from place to place, country to another. Every situation and place has been showing me new perspectives on things, even the unpleasant ones. For that reason, Im not afraid of the possible setbacks, because I feel that those moment are the ones that will eventually correct your current curse you are on. Of course, it is time to time really, really frustrating and giving me headaches, making me feel that I just want to quit and give up, on everything. Like whats the point, if I just seem to be struggling. But as I have been planning much, but I also have learned, also in a hard way, that you may have the fanciest plans with every single detail thinked before hand how you want things to be, but life always does throw some sort of curveball on your plans, so more or less, you need to be having a flexible mindset while still keeping focus on your goal.

For example, from the childhood i have wanted to live in Spain, being one drema of mine. Like i were writing about it few post earlier, the road to here were not straight. At first the decision to be happy, in a place that support my happiness and doing what i love. Aiming to spain, flyed to Greece, From greece back to Finland (setback) to have the reflection on what has been and what is now, am i heading now to adored way. Where I truly were happy? and From Finland, finally to Spain. In total from the dream to actually being able to make things happen, 10years and 2 of them with action towards the goal. But with one decision, making it really start to happen and becoming a reality. It is all about the mindset, it all starts in the mind.

Somethimes the smallest step lead to the biggest end of results, but also, on some aspect, the biggest things can happen from the smallest act.

When I struggle to keep myself focused on the goal itself, I keep reminding myself why did i even started on the first place. What i am gaining from reaching toward my goals, and how it is gonna effect on my life in future. In a good ways. Also breaking down my adored end of result to much smaller steps, just to keep my mind on its place and not getting lost during the journey and between the plot twists.

The more presice you are what you want, but having the flexibility on reaching out to wanted result, the more able you are to achieve it.